In continuation of the previous post, here’s where I’m dropping my opinion, as I didn’t want to bore you in the previous post by making it a long read which will eventually bore you. Here’s the link to the previous post in case you missed by the way.
If there is no justification for a man hitting a woman, then there is no justification for a woman to verbally abuse a man. If he continues to walk away from the insult, it ll only be eating him up inside. I find it offensive that you tactfully excused the woman’s madness and blame the man for not walking away. You are in effect saying that men should continuously endure domestic violence (abuse) because they are physically stronger? You think that a woman’s words do not do emotional harm? Is it just the man who should be understanding and reasonable? Should the woman not learn to respect her head?
Takes a deep, deep breathe – I vividly remember how I’ve made posts on here screaming and wailing against domestic violence, without being objective about this issue – I mean looking at it from both sides.
This is a side of the matter that’s less talked about. Obviously because, we hear and see the scars and damages that have been made already, but often times we don’t look into this thing with scrutiny. We just arrive at the conclusion of “Women should never be beaten or hit for any reason whatsoever”. Truly!. But do we also try to ask or find if these men actually in their right sense of mind wanted to do so? Obviously except for the born-women beaters.
We are guilty of this, I am guilty of this big time. Emotional hurt is very much painful. I remember growing up, when our parents decided to finally stop beating us. Whenever we erred, their next best resort, was talking the hell out of you, that you’d have preferred being beaten, than hearing those hurtful words.
Remember when you failed jamb? whenever you tried doing anything that’s not book related, how they would use wordplay to finish your life? You’d hear words like;
Since you can’t pass jamb, at least pass me the salt on the table.
Perhaps you’re having a spill over in school, and the weather is cold outside when your parents go out. You’d hear stuff like;
This weather is so cold, I go outside, its zero degrees. I come inside my house again, its zero degrees I’m meeting again…
You catch my drift? Imagine the mental torture…
P.S: That’s not to say that we don’t have inherently evil men who take out frustrations on their wives for no tangible reason. So also, can some women bring out the beast in a lamb. So, every issue of domestic violence should be judged based on it’s merits.
What are thoughts on these? Use the comment box below. I want to hear your view…