What makes a relationship great isn’t the promise of perfection, or an endless reality of bliss.
You would never tell her to be like someone else because when you love a woman, you’ll wish everyone could be like her.
Being with someone is bound to come with its own special benefits as well as its issues. You enjoy the great moments, and work your way past difficult situations.
And when the time comes and your relationship reaches its own place of difficulty, you need to know that there are better ways to talk to your woman, better ways to express your desires than the three listed below.
1. It’s either me or XYZ
A man who knows his place and recognizes his importance would never have to make you pick between himself and your job, or your friends. You would never tell her to be like someone else because when you love a woman, you’ll wish everyone could be like her.
2. My ex did this differently
Even if there’s something about your ex that you absolutely love, a particular way she did something that impressed you all the time, you can’t afford to express this to your new girl.
You’ll be putting her in direct comparison with your ex, and letting her know that she came up short. No woman likes that. She won’t take that lightly with you.
It’s better to pass that message across more subtly and more codedly than this.
3. Be more like XYZ
If you love her, your criticisms are constructive and they will be about her, not about others.
When you love a woman, you’ll wish everyone else were more like her.
Love is enduring, kind, accepting your partner regardless of their flaws. It’s deliberate. If you keep comparing, then I feel its best you go back to your ex then. Abi?
“Perfection is shallow, unreal, and fatally uninteresting”