I know recently, the trend of my posts has been on relationships. Yea, I know. I’m no relationship doctor though. lol. Just posting on things I know on relationships. So, let’s talk about this time-ticking bomb called “Insecurities” in relationships.
In my previous where I talked about Overthinking and its dangers. I mentioned how it leads to having negative thoughts, and also how it leads to distrust. But sadly, that’s not where it ends; it’s a cycle. Distrust can never be the end result of overthinking, I think we all know that fosho. It gives birth/ puts, into production the deadly time ticking bomb called… Insecurities
Insecurities, are a deadly thing. It’s one scaring world to live in. You actually don’t realize you are insecure or the level of your insecurities till it blows up. The damage is done already. Then you realize “oh sh**! look what I’ve done, how did this happen?” guess what? I’ve been down that road before. Trust me when I say its ugly.
So, I came up with this 3 ways to at least get over insecurities…
1. Stop feeling paranoid over nothing.
Let’s face it: we all talk to people of the opposite sex. Just because a boy and girl (or boy and boy, or girl and girl) are friends doesn’t mean there is more to the story. Avoid the temptation to snoop your partner’s phone, Facebook messages, whatsapp, DMs. While this could temporarily calm your nerves when you see nothing afoul, its also a behavior that could quickly become addictive, not to mention damaging for relationship’s trust when they find out.
2. Stop putting off uncomfortable conversations.
While conflict is stressful for your relationship in the short-term, it will build the strength of your relationship in the long-term. Facing your problems without fear will help you grow closer to your partner. Never mince words with each other and you will develop trust so strong that you can tell your partner anything that is on your mind anyday, anytime.
3. Love Yourself! Kill Insecurities
Never forget to love to love yourself, in fact this is fundamental. This ought to be the first on the list, but my eyes and body needs rest right now, besides I cannot coman be stressing myself ontop of wan insecuties that dinor send somebody sef. Love yourself, Love yourself that’s the first rule of a relationship. If you don’t love yourself, how can you love someone else? that’s rhetorical, don’t bother answering. lol.